Another Reality is Possible.
Where’s the Off Button?
Although you’re exhausted, you may find yourself up at night thinking about how you’re going to take care of your aging parents, what your next career move should be, whether or not the person you went on a date with is going to text you, how that person talked over you during your afternoon meeting, that time your co-worker called you “spicy,” if you should say “yes” to that volunteer opportunity, and on and on and on. Your mind may be spinning with to-dos and what-ifs, and you need a break.
Why Do I Feel Like Something is Missing?
You were probably given a blueprint for what your life should look like, and in spite of our inequitable systems, you’ve gotten this far. However, you may not be feeling it. You might be thinking, “Shouldn’t I feel, I dunno, happier?” Sure, happiness is an emotion that ebbs and flows, but things sometimes feel empty. You may even feel detached at times. You’re not even sure if you buy into the hype of “traditional success” and you’re worried about continuing down this road. However, the alternatives seem scary too. You may feel like your mental health, and maybe even your physical health is suffering.
My clients want to uncover their truths and not just accept what they’ve inherited at face value. My clients come to me because they want a space to heal from unreasonable expectations imposed on them.
Therapy may be for you if:
You’re struggling to ask for/accept support
Resentment and irritability are a couple of your baseline emotions around tasks at work or home
Negative self-talk and self-doubt are increasingly creeping in
You feel tired no matter how much you sleep
Past and/or current family dynamics are starting to surface and negatively affecting how you feel about yourself
You’re finding yourself leaning more on unhealthy coping mechanisms (e.g., substance use, binge-watching TV, doom scrolling, or excessive scrolling on social media)
What’s Your Approach?
My goal is to hold space for you to work through the things holding you back from experiencing the joy you want. Let me be clear: this isn’t a Pollyannaish view of the world. Joy is an act of resistance, and having more peace of mind and body is possible. Also, you don’t need to code-switch or “perform” for me. You can show up however you need to show up. The intention is healing, not perfection.
What Can I Expect?
All sessions are virtual, and the video platform I use is secure and confidential. Offering virtual therapy means I can offer therapy anywhere in North Carolina while you are in the comfort of your own space.
During your first session, we’ll review your initial paperwork and signed releases that you will receive before your session. We will also work through a more in-depth assessment to help get a more complete picture of the different puzzle pieces that make up your life. The first session will be more structured and interview-like than our following sessions together.
Sessions will be 50 minutes unless you request an 80-minute session. I recommend that we meet once a week for the first four weeks to keep up the momentum we see in sessions. Payment is collected at the end of your session.
There may be times when you feel vulnerable, but our pace and what you disclose is up to you. We may talk about big historical things that you haven’t told anyone, and we may talk about how you forgot your lunch at home. If there are tools and skills that I think will serve you, I’ll share them with your permission. There will be moments of discomfort, sighs of relief, and times when we share a good laugh.
While they’re usually asleep, you may see my sweet kitties, Cinder and Smudge, pop into the frame every now and then (if this is an issue, let’s chat!).